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Cutting Through the Delusions
Many of the kids I talk to seem to be fairly delusional about school. Somehow they have gotten the notion that school should be this fun, Candyland-type of experience and when it is not, they are, well,…outraged. 13-year-old Liam offers a litany of complaints about...
“A Big Bowl of …”
A frustrated mom named Jan, who I spoke to some time ago really reduced things to its basic terms. Discussing her 12 year old sixth grader, Jackson, she went through a list of issues: resistant to homework hates reading frequent meltdowns constant YouTubing...
“Hmmm… Let Me Think About It” – Two Minute Tidbit Tips
In today's Two Minute Tidbit Tip, Dr. Selznick discusses self-monitoring and flexibility of thinking.
The Frustration of Nonchalance
Synonyms for “nonchalance:” apathy, complacence indifference, unconcern, torpor Antonyms for “nonchalance:” concerned, interested, motivated A parent came to talk to me about her 13 year old son, Aaron. Previously “diagnosed” with ADHD of the inattentive variety,...
“Meltdowny Children”
Lots of parents come to me to talk about their children who are “meltdowny” (a word I made up). To explain these “meltdowny” types, let’s look at the story of five-year-old Jared. Prone to having meltdowns when he does not get his way, Jared shows extreme reactions...
Value of Assessment & the Right Questions to Ask
Whenever I do an assessment I know that in many ways I am swimming against the tide in the way that I approach things. Parents are focused on “the diagnosis,” largely supported by the medical model. Such a model embodies a, “Yes, he has it,” or “No, he does not have...
“We Live in a Decaying Age”
Frequently, we adults are shaking our head and muttering about the state of childhood, as child behavior can “pluck our last nerves,” as the saying goes. Collectively, we “tut-tut” and wonder how it’s all unraveling around us, with everything going into a horrific...
Schools Don’t Diagnose
This is a follow up to a recent blog post – “Back in the Zone (of No Zone): Back in the Zone (of No Zone). Parents frequently talk to me about their frustration (insistence) that schools diagnose their child’s dyslexia (or other learning disorders for that matter)....
Weight Lifting
As the current “new abnormal” continues, virtually all children are receiving instruction on-line, there are a few old school considerations to keep in mind. Much of the “instruction” described to me by the parents with whom I consult with (on-line), represents a...
Back in the Zone (of No Zone)
Today I chatted with parents about their 10 year old fifth grade child, Lianna. Since kindergarten they have watched her struggle. They saw other children in Lianna’s peer group progressing, while she seemed stuck, barely moving forward. Even though they would...
Accommodations: Avoiding “Rubber-Stamping”
When a children have a learning disability like dyslexia, typically this impacts their reading fluency, spelling and writing. For those who have been “diagnosed” as ADHD/ADD their central features are distractability, inattentiveness and impulsivity. Quite often...