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“It’s OK to Let Your Child Feel Bad”
Somewhere along the way, guilt or feeling badly about something one has done, has gotten a bad name. This may be due to the fact that earlier generations of parents inflicted heavy doses of guilt on their children, often in front of others. As a reaction to this prior...
“504 Realities (Part II) – Raising My ‘IQ'”
In last week’s post we talked about some of the basics involved with 504 Plans (504 Plans - The Reality : Part I ). Remember, that a 504 does not offer any interventions, but accommodations. It is intended to provide equal access to the mainstream to those identified...
504 Plans – The Reality: Part I
Parents will come to me loaded with terms only partially understood, like referring to "504 Plans.". I will hear things such as the following: “We just need to get him a 504. so he can start reading better.” "Yesterday, she had a meltdown in school and no one wants...
Blog #1 from 2009
Started in 2009 upon the release of my first book, The Shut-Down Learner, there have been nearly 600 blog posts completed on a weekly basis over those years.. I thought it would be fun to look back on some of the earliest ones (slightly edited), to see what I was...
“Hemming & Hawing”
OK… Among other disorders that I seem to have, readers of this blog know I have confessed to my “PBD” or “Pushback Disorder.” PBD usually manifests whenever parents tell me something that has a hypothesis (i.e., an opinion) as to why their child is doing or not doing...
“‘Barn Kids’ & the ‘Populars'”
In my ongoing education, this week I learned about the “Barn Kids” and the “Populars.” Mother of 12-year-old Marla explained to me that her 12-year-old daughter was one of the “Barn Kids" and not one of the "Populars." Instinctively, I sort of knew what she meant,...
“Low ‘Oomph'”
"oomph" noun Informal: energy; vitality; enthusiasm. I don’t know how to describe it in more clinical or scientific terms, but there are a bunch of kids I’ve assessed recently who seem to me to lack “oomph.” While “oomph” may be one of those words that are not...
“Nicholas & the ‘Child-to-Mother Sideways Glance'”
Over the last year or so, I’ve noted an interesting trend – I’ll call it the “Child-to-Mom- Sideways Glance.” Here’s how it goes. Take William, age 8, who comes in to meet with me for the first time accompanied by his mother. They sit next to each other perhaps two...
“Common Sense & ‘Passing the Smell Test'”
Last Sunday there was a feature article in the New York Times on the science of reading emphasizing that “science” has confirmed the need to teach children phonics. (Science of Reading - New York Times) While this comes after decades of debate, the article notes that...
“And, So a New Chapter Begins”
With the arrival of newborn Emmett Gaetano Selznick last weekend, an official new chapter begins in our lives. As I said a while ago, in a previous blog on grandparenting, I’m going to try and do my best to do what grandparents are supposed to do – spoil and “zip it...
“‘What’s the Matter With Kids Today?'”
“The world is passing through troublous times. The young people of today think nothing but of themselves. They have no reverence for parents or old age. They are impatient of all restraint. They talk as if they knew everything, and what passes for wisdom with us is...