Brett, age 8, has difficulty behaving in his third grade class.  Frequently calling out, pushing on line and at times being rude to the teacher and other kids, his parents have been called in for the “meeting” to discuss Brett and his behavior.

They are told by the school, “We’re not doctors so we don’t know why he’s doing these things, but we think you should see a neurologist.”

The last statement is code language.

Here’s the translation – “We think Brett has ADHD and needs to be on medication.”

The parents come to consult with me about Brett, even though I am not the kind of doctor the school has in mind.

Brett’s mom says, “We just don’t know why he does these things.  If we only knew why, then it could be fixed.  Maybe it’s his anxiety or his sensory issues.”

I can’t help myself pushing back.  (It’s my own disorder – “Pushback Disorder,” I believe it’s called.)

“The problem with the “Why” question is it’s all speculation,” I say.  “Even the best neurologists are using subjective rating scales and history to determine things like ADHD.  So it becomes a “weight of the evidence” diagnosis.   Usually there are a number of variables interacting at the same time, not all of which are in the child’s head.”

“So how do we fix it?”  (A question I get all the time, but still wriggle around trying to answer it.)

“Well, they’re not car engines.  Nothing’s broken.  So there’s no fixing it. Rather than speculate, try and stay with the facts that are observed.  What happened first, second, third?  How did the adults respond?  What were the consequences?  Before starting on medication, which might be helpful for Brett, let’s get a sense of the basic facts of the behavior ”

Takeaway Point

Back in the day there was a popular TV Show, “Dragnet,” where the main detective would say, “Just the facts, Ma’m.”

Stay with the facts.  “Just the facts, Ma’m.”

Copyright, Richard Selznick, Ph.D.  2022,

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